|Me at 11 months|
I have often been confused by how a medical school can turn out 2 highly skilled class mates, one a high risk OB physician and one a pediatric cardiac surgeon, YET the high risk OB is more likely to send an expectant mom to an abortion provider than to their cardiac colleague. Reproductive medicine seems to now view its rolls as prevention of unplanned pregnancy, infertility treatments and gatekeeper to make sure all babies born meet society's stringent standard of perfection.
When I found out I was pregnant with Grace, I was 23 years old and was in the ER with the worst flu of my life. I had a better job than most 23 year olds and I was buying my home. However, I was also single and my pregnancy was unplanned. The ER nurse gave me a list of abortion providers as the doctor gave me the news. The next day I called my ob/gyn, who let me know that due to my disability, I would need a high risk doctor. I already knew the risks of my hip not being able to hold together, but was surprised to learn that the referral was out of fear that my child would be disabled, not due to my hip problems. (My disability has no known risk of being inherited.) I then went to an amazing high risk doctor named Dr. Dix. Later she would find out that I had a dermoid cyst growing and would soon be competing for space with my baby. Dr. Dix was the doctor whom I needed. She inspired confidence and built a vision of a successful pregnancy. Unfortunately, her partner doctor at the time was just the opposite. During visits with him, he would advise dangerous extensive testing, exaggerate the risks of my health situation, advocate abortion with handfuls of pamphlets and he would tell me that I had been brain washed by people into believing that disabled people had a quality of life like mine. He assure me that I was a rarity. However, due to many lengthy stays in a children's hospital and though working for a disability rights organization, I knew that I had more knowledge about the "quality of life" of disabled people than this dangerously misinformed doctor.
I was offered abortion resources at every turn and occasionally someone would suggest adoption. However, rarely was I just simply congratulated that I was about to be a mom. When I think of 38 years of legal abortions in the United States, I am overwhelmed by the over 52 million moms-to-be who didn't feel congratulated, who were not celebrated and who didn't feel that their kid could change the world. As a Christian, I do not believe that sex makes a baby, but God allows babies to be made through sex at just the perfect time and in just the perfect way for each one to complete His will. Each child has potential beyond the conditions of their birth because God has a plan for each mom and each child.
I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made:
marvellous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well. --Psalms 139:14
Lo, children are an heritage of the LORD:
the fruit of the womb is his reward. --Psalms 127:3
BTW-If you are a mom or a mom-to-be reading this, "Mega Congratulations!"